Sex with men

Are you a man and do you ever have sex with a man?

Did you know: 

8% of men have ever experimented with a man?
Of men, 8% have ever had sex with a man; of women, 10% have ever had sex with a woman. Sex here means oral or anal sex and, for women who have sex with women, also sex with fingers or toys.

6% of men and 3% of women call themselves gay, bisexual or lesbian.
The fact that self-designation as gay, bisexual or lesbian is more common among men than women, while same-sex attraction is more common among women, appears to be due to the relatively large group of women who are primarily attracted to the opposite sex and who call themselves heterosexual more often than men. Of the women who are primarily attracted to persons of the same sex, 78% said call themselves straight, compared to 49% of men.

Do you belong to that 8% and label yourself heterosexual or do you prefer to keep your bi-gay sexual feelings to yourself? Is it difficult to find the right information about safe sex, STIs and HIV?
Soapoli-online is here for you. With us you can anonymously and very discreetly get your information by reading on the site but you can also call or email us. Klazien and Marlous are both STD nurses and each have more than 20 years of experience. No question is too crazy. 
If you've had sex contact and want to make sure you didn't get anything from it then you've also come to the right place. We offer STD lab kits that are analyzed in the laboratory. Just like at the doctor's but anonymous and without conversation. 

 

Risk of STI and HIV

STIs (Sexually transmitted infections), formerly called venereal diseases, are diseases transmitted through sexual contact. Every year, over 100,000 people are estimated to contract an STI in the Netherlands. Some STIs have serious consequences if they are not treated in time. Fortunately, most are easily cured. Treatment with medication will help you get rid of them.
You can carry an STI without even noticing it. In fact, most STIs do not cause any symptoms at all.

Through Soapoli-online you can get tested for, chlamydia, gonorrhea, trichomonas, syphilis, HIV, hepatitis B, hepatitis C, mycoplasma and genital herpes.

The standard advice according to NHG standards for a man who has had sex with a man is quite extensive: 

Chlamydia and gonorrhea (throat and urine and anus) 
Syphilis andhiv (Testing for HIV is not necessary if you already know you are HIV positive)
Hepatitis B (unless you have been vaccinated) 
If you are infected with HIV or using PrEP then you would be hepatitis C be able to test

As mentioned this is quite extensive advice. To nuance it slightly: For example, if you have given someone a blowjob once and have never been sucked or touched by the penis or anus then a throat test for chlamydia and gonorrhea will suffice. You can call or email us if you have questions about this or would like a customized test recommendation. In addition, there is a new insight test and treatment policy around chlamydia. At the beginning of 2025 a new chlamydia testing policy has been implemented by the GGD: if you have no complaints then testing for chlamydia is not useful.  

HIV is transmitted through blood-blood contact and blood-sperm contact. A condom protects you very well. We recommend regular testing for HIV, even if you always use condoms. Test for STIs and HIV once every six months if you have changing partners or if your partner may be at higher risk for STIs/HIV.
 

PrEP use for HIV prevention

In 2017, 7 out of 10 HIV diagnoses in the Netherlands were in men who have sex with men. If you are a man who has sex with men, you have a decent chance of contracting HIV in the Netherlands. As a man who has sex with men, it is wise to use PrEP unless:

- You ALWAYS use a condom when fucking, even with your regular partner
- You do not always use a condom but you are 100% sure of your sex partner that he or she is HIV negative and has no chance of contracting HIV from another sex partner
- You don't always use a condom but you know from your sex partner that he has HIV with a suppressed viral load. Someone with a suppressed viral load cannot transmit the virus.
 
 

Prevent an STI

Prevention is better than cure. How do you prevent contracting STI/HIV?

It may be that the condom broke during sex. If so, you will be quite shocked. Here are some tips on what to do if this happens to you: what to do if condom tears during anal sex.

Did you know there is 1 STI you can get protected for? Free? That's hepatitis B. With 3 vaccinations, you have a lifetime of protection against this virus. Visit a GGD in your area and they will help you. 

STD treatment?

Soapoli-online indicates in the results what you should do suppose the results are positive. With chlamydia, trichomonas and mycoplasma, that's pretty easy by sending a prescription to the pharmacy you specify. 

Syphilis and gonorrhea we treat with an injection. You can come to Gouda if your family doctor is not an option. 

Should there be an HIV positive result we will make sure you get to the right care provider.

This link will take you to detailed information on how aSTI treatment via Soapoli-online looks like.

Go for security...

Soapoli-online collaborates for sample analysis with an ISO certified laboratory that delivers very fast results with the best quality. On this page you can read all about thequality of our tests. Aside from the fact that the tests are very reliable, our service is comprehensive and we will do everything we can to help you as best we can so that you have certainty quickly.
 

Important informative site: 
Test Lab
Soaaids Netherlands